I hope my hustle offends the sh*t out of you.

I don't go around wanting to offend anyone. I mean, I'll be honest, it happens, but I don't mean for it to. For a long time, I've felt guilty about my passions, and my need to continue on this relentless pursuit for what sets my soul on fire. As my 29th birthday gets closer, I've decided that I'm no longer slowing down or stopping my hustle to make those around me feel more comfortable. Here's why:

1. The WoMan in the Mirror

I've spent too many nights, mornings, afternoons wiping my own tears. I've spent too many meetings looking authority in the eye and coddling their conscious, only to be ostracized moments later. I owe it to myself to stay true to my passion, my path, my process. I'm all about teams, I'm all about support systems, and they're important, but a strong foundation is key. The higher the skyscraper, the stronger the foundation needs to be, and I can't build it using someone else's blueprint.

2. I'm okay with not being liked, with not being for everybody

I remember during my junior year of playing basketball in college, and sitting in my coach's office crying to her. I tried explaining to her that I didn't want to be the captain. I wanted to be captain, but I knew that it would cause friction between the other juniors who had not been given the opportunity. The assistant coach pulled me aside and said, I had to be captain. She said that I had shown I could make tough decisions for the betterment of the team, even if those weren't the popular decisions, that I was okay with not being liked if it meant the team could be great. She was right, I've always been that way. A quote by one of my favorite businessmen, Paul Arden, really speaks to my thought process.

"Everybody wants to be good, but not many are prepared to make the sacrifices it takes to be great. To many people, being nice in order to be liked is more important. There's equal merit in that, but you must not confuse being good with being liked." - Paul Arden

3. I pace myself

I would be a billionaire if I had a dollar for everytime someone said "slow down." No. That's not my pace. I had really bad asthma when I was younger and my mom use to tell me to, "get down the court as fast as you can and you'll have more time to rest." That mindset has always been with me. I like to get stuff done, because then I have time to do what I want. If I tried to change my pace to go slower I would get bored. My hustle is rooted in my ability to go at the pace I need to be successful.

4. I am serious and intentional about my goals

I'm not doing anything that is not going to get me closer to my goals. I am focused on the things I want for my life and I have a vision on how those things will come to fruition. I've taken the time to process what it is I want in life, and what I'm willing to do to get them.

5. I will not be gentle with my goals

I am bold and focused and determined, and good things don't come to those who wait, they come to those who hustle. I will not be gentle with my goals because disappointment and failure are never gentle with my heart.

I say this to say, that I hope my hustle offends the sh*t out of you. I hope that it conjures something up deep in your soul to get you moving, to get you going. It happened to me. I remember seeing someone whose hustle was hypnotizing. They were always climbing, always progressing, and it offended me. It bothered me, it annoyed me, but more importantly it got me moving. What are five things that describe your hustle, please share below in the comments.

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